E1: What is Your Conflict Really About?

Dr. Emily Taylor coaches a parent to discover the root of a repetitive disagreement. There’s a good chance the conflict you’re struggling with is about something deeper than you realize. That’s what Erika discovers in this coaching session about what seems like a minor, repetitive disagreement around mealtimes with her young daughters. In this coaching session, Dr. Emily guides Erika through strategies to identify what the conflict is really about and brainstorms new ways to communicate with her husband about the issue. In this episode, you will learn how to: - Clarify what’s below the surface of a conflict. - Use what you know about the other person to communicate more effectively. - Use the “non-violent communication” style in a conflict Dr. Emily recommends these resources on non-violent communication: https://www.cnvc.org/ https://nonviolentcommunication.com/resources/ Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at conflictcoach@byu.edu or connect with her on social media @conflictcoachwithdremily 00:00 Introduction to The Conflict Coach 00:49 Meet Erica: Struggles of a Young Mom 01:27 Dinner Time Conflicts: Control and Critique 04:51 Deeper Values Behind Parenting Choices 13:33 Role Play: Communicating Values to Your Partner 22:10 Effective Communication Strategies 25:40 Conclusion and Key Takeaways